What is Divorce Mediation?

Divorce mediation is a voluntary and confidential process in which you and your partner negotiate the terms of your separation/divorce with the help of a neutral party known as a mediator. The two of you will talk about what is most important to you as you come to agreements about custody, parenting, division of assets, spousal maintenance (alimony), child support, care for pets, future communication, and more. I will draw up a Memorandum of Understanding, which can be turned into a binding divorce settlement agreement.

Why choose Divorce Mediation?

In most cases, mediation is cheaper, faster, and less painful than fighting in court. It offers more flexibility and opportunity for cooperation and often leads to more durable agreements. While you may not be able to avoid all the pain of divorce, mediation gives you a measure of control over your future. Additionally, if you and your soon-to-be ex-partner are finding it difficult to communicate productively and reach mutually acceptable agreements, I will help you overcome these obstacles. 

What if I wish to consult a lawyer AND mediate?

You do not need a lawyer to begin the mediation process. However, entering into mediation does not preclude your retaining legal representation or working with other professionals, such as counselors, therapists, accountants, advocates, etc. In fact, if at some point during the mediation process you have questions about your rights or the choices in front of you - or you simply need additional help - I will suggest that you consult with the appropriate professional so that you are capable of making decisions that work for you and help you reach the best possible outcome for you and your children. I recommend that you obtain independent legal representation before signing any agreement.

What is your mediation style?

By conducting a free initial consultation, we will figure out whether I am the right mediator for you. Here are some thoughts about my approach to mediation:

• I will not pick sides. I am on BOTH of your sides, and anytime there are children involved, I am on their side too.

• I will honor your choices and let you lead the way. At the same time, I will guide the mediation process, help you explore options, and help the two of you work through areas where you are stuck.

• I am not afraid of meaningful conflict or strong emotions. I will let you express what you need to express. At the same time, I will work to ensure that our conversations are productive and move the process forward.

• I believe in transparency. I will be clear with you about the mediation process, my fees, and my reasons for doing what I am doing. I will answer any questions you have. I require full disclosure from you about assets and anything else that we need to discuss for the mediation to be fair and lead to durable agreements.

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